Social media, strong views, the relationship world& a mild form or radicalisation

I honestly believe that a lot of what we are seeing on social media these days is a mild form of radicalisation…

Now please don’t get me wrong I’m not talking about terrori*m,

I’m talking about these radical, extreme views that are all over social media.

The conditioning that’s going on from supposed mentors and coaches that are somehow trying to protect/advise/mentor they’re audience (so that they can get them to buy their programmes/courses/coaching packages) is wrong,

I see so much of the following:

Extreme dating rules, assumptions and theories,

Extreme labelling, streaming and generalisations,

There’s so much black and white thinking going on which isn’t recommended by CBT experts.

So many extreme views, unhealthy perceptions, misuse of words that were used sparingly decades ago,

A lot of people projecting their bad experiences onto others,

I honestly wish everyone in this world would buy and actually read a book on sociology….avoid these poor and extreme ways of thinking as your beliefs can ruin your actual life and your relationships,

When you label everything or everyone as BAD, you can never attract good things or good people into your life.

If you go on a date and you are already looking out for 10 red flags,.then it’s not a wonder that you are still single or failing to find someone to get married to.

When I joined to TikTok I realised how paranoid most people are becoming.

Nearly every time a woman shares a problem in her marriage on social media she’s instantly advised to get a divorce by dozens or hundreds of women, they give this bad advice when the woman’s problem is so small that it can easily be resolved with counselling/by creating a new boundary/by sitting down and having a conversation with her husband but sadly most advisors will not see it that way (and we wonder why marriages are falling apart in this generation).

Most people think they are healing and practising self care…and some genuinely are, but but sadly many others they are becoming extr*mists (in terms of their beliefs of people and the world) without even realising it and it can potentially damage their lives.

Most people have become cold, loveless, secluded, extremely anxious, trapped by fear and afraid to open their hearts or lives to anyone.

Most people can’t even go on a date and enjoy it anymore, as they have to live up to 100 dating rules before the date is even over haha.

Most people have mis-labelled many good people that they know as toxic and as narcissists just because they learned these words on social media.

That’s what radicalisation on social media has caused.

People have lost that happy go-lucky-vibe about them and have literally become shells of themselves.

I remember a guy on TikTok saying that he had to unfollow so many accounts as these so called leaders were making him believe that all women were bad and he was beginning to misread and mis-judge everything his girlfriend was doing,

Also if you are changing your behaviour or working on yourself ONLY to prove that you aren’t toxic or a narcissist that’s not you truly changing, you are only performing to live up to society’s perfect view of how you should be,

If you want to change change from the heart change to become a BETTER PERSON for you, to have healthier relationships and to make a better impact in the world, don’t pretend to change just to prove something to people.

I know this is a mouth full, but I was just thinking about this today…based on my sociology background.

I’m actually working on a book that I started working on (during the pandemic) to do with a wide range of global issues including social media addiction, racism, discrimination against black women and so many other topics.

So I thought to share some of my thoughts with you on what I’m noticing as patterns online.

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Thanks for reading. I’d love to hear you if you have any thoughts on any of the above, do you agree, disagree?

Feel free to leave me a comment below.